Living successfully is a right everyone deserves in this world since we all have one life in the end. But is living successfully really that difficult? Definitely not! We only have to make some life-changing decisions that can take us on that route of success.
Sometimes we face difficulty in choosing what is right for us, but with a little guidance, the correct choice can be made.
The idea of living successfully starts with a mere thought, but making it happen is completely a different thing. When it comes to success – everyone wants it. However, what exactly does it take to get it?
There are so many little things that can make a difference in our everyday lives, but some main points can be highlighted to ensure that people are doing the right things to make their lives successful.
If you follow the advice offered here and fulfill these 15 requirements that you are about to find out, you will be able to transform your life and produce outstanding results.
1. Living Successfully Entails Setting Goals
A lot of people are not living successfully because they do not have a clear and specific goal. When you do not know what you want, you will end up nowhere.
It is only when you know what you want, you can then stay focused on it, create plans and take consistent action to move toward it. Think about it, can you hit a target that you cannot see? It is impossible.
Therefore, find out what you want to achieve in your life in the future right now. Plan your life and it will come true.
Believe it or not, a human brain is a cybernetic mechanism. It consciously or unconsciously chases any goal or vision we set for ourselves. The process might be inexplicable but it’s real for sure.
I do not know what latent universal forces work to make our goals a reality, but I am convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that goal-setting is a powerful medium to tap those resources. Bigger your goal, bigger will be the motivation. Set goals for yourself in the area of health, wealth, relationships and service.
You must have a clear vision of what success means to you. Do not just say that you want to be rich and successful, define it clearly how much you want to earn, by when and create a plan of how you are going to do it.
The clearer you are with your goals, the easier it is for you to accomplish them. A lot of people are not clear what they want in the future, which is why they are living in mediocrity. Do not let this happen to you. Take your time to think about what you really want in your life right now if you want to keep living successfully.
2. Believe in yourself
A very important key to successful living is that you believe in your God-given ability to achieve success. Regardless of how you define success, you must believe that you can do it. Don’t think that success only happens for everyone else and not you.
You have to believe in your heart that you can be successful. You have to believe that you have been empowered and equipped internally with all that you need to succeed. When you believe in yourself, and your God-given abilities you become empowered to do amazing things. This can help you propel into new dimensions in your life.
Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, authors of The Confidence Code, wrote a planetary article for The Atlantic on this subject. They point out that success is just as dependent on confidence as it is on competence. Their conclusion? Low confidence results in inaction. Successful living entails that you believe in yourself and have strong confidence.
When things don’t turn out the way you wanted, try saying to yourself, “Something wonderful will come out of this”. And believe it. Someday everything will fall into place. Amazing things tend to happen at the very moment you’re about to give up hope.
Be the dreamer of improbable dreams because even though it might not seem like it now, the thing you never got might just be the best thing that never happened. Allow for your rainbow to shine through the storm. Allow for something wonderful to happen.
You just have one life make sure you do not waste a single moment of your time living someone else’s life or dreams. Love others but make sure no one loves you more than you love yourself. Do not seek social approval for things that are morally right and important to you.
You must prefer loneliness over an immoral company. Be completely at peace with yourself. If you have a feeling of guilt about your past then forgive yourself and make a fresh start.
3. Personal growth
You should always strive for personal growth if you really want to live successfully. As goes a saying, something that has stopped growing has died already. Accept your small imperfections and keep in mind that nobody is perfect at everything. Demanding perfection will only result in a waste of your time, which can be used for more productive purposes.
Study until you really grasp the life-changing power of the truth that you can precondition your own success. Keep up to date with new technologies and inventions.
Today having computer access is quite easy, and the internet provides a direct route to knowledge of all new findings and developments for dyslexics. Keep up to date with these changes/developments as you may one day find that these new innovations may dramatically change the quality of your life.
According to research conducted by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, how people view their personality affects their capacity for happiness and success. People with a “growth mindset,” however, see failure as a way to grow and therefore embrace challenges, persevere against setbacks, learn from criticism, and reach higher levels of achievement.
Every problem that you ever faced in life or will face in life has been conquered by someone else. The solution to these problems has been documented in some books. One of the best things that I advise my clients is to devise their own learning budget.
Whatever you are earning try to spend 5-10% of the same on books, success programs and personal development workshops, or something that motivates you, to dream, discover and live successfully.
4. Keeping in mind the realities of this world
The next step to accomplish your goal of living successfully starts with this simple realization that you are human: you are not perfect and you can’t do everything alone.
It should be recognized that the world is not a bed of roses. Pain, suffering and hard work are required to push your way to the top. But you should still be able to see all the good things that life has to offer and be motivated to do your best. Stop thinking about what happened in the past, or worry about what might happen in the future. Live in the moment and learn to savor each one.
There is no greater truth than this: you cannot have everything at the same time. Also, successful living cannot be achieved in one day! You have only 24 hours a day and need to take care of your relationships, work and spirit.
On any given day, the focus will shift: some days your children have to go to after-school care because you have an important meeting, while other times work has to take a back seat because of a sick child with a high fever.
Sometimes you just need to chill with your girlfriends because it has been ages since you last took a break.
Accept that life is unfair and it’s a fact. You can moan about it and wish that it were different or you can go out there and do something about it.
So stop wasting time about the unfairness of it all and think about how to use the situation for your benefit and start living successfully. Newton could have complained about the apple falling from the tree and hitting his head. Instead, he identified the law of gravity and is now known as the father of physics
5. Be kind-hearted
Kind-hearted compassionate people, who never think of doing harm to anyone, always have goodly come by them. But that doesn’t mean you will always get goodly done to you if you have done it for someone else and don’t expect anything in return for your generosity. Just do things out of good measure, to keep humanity in the humans alive. The sympathy you feel for someone else is rewarded enough.
We can’t fix anyone’s life, what we can do is share, care, love, hug, listen and support. Your success is measured by the size of the contribution you make to the world. Only human beings can go beyond themselves and serve humanity. Treat the entire world as your family. Share your happiness with people and help them in overcoming their sorrows and weaknesses if you desire to start living successfully.
People who are successful encourage progress by solving problems and answering questions. No matter where you are or what you’re doing, look around and try to think of ways you can contribute. What are people struggling with or complaining about?
How can you make life easier for them in an effective way? Can you re-design or re-organize some aspect of the situation so things run more smoothly? Can you create a product or provide a service that fills a critical gap?
Trying to see things from another person’s perspective will not only make you more receptive to their views and ideas, it is will make you less irritable if their opinions or actions do not match your own.
– As Albert Einstein said, try not to become a person of success but rather try to become a person of value. ‘If your life has more to it than being just full of yourself, then you will be living successfully beyond words.
6. You need motivation
Motivation is another powerful tool for those that desire to start living successfully. If you do not have the motivation, you will never have the drive to take the action. And the best way to motivate yourself is by doing something that you are passionate about.
Therefore, make sure you are passionate about your dreams and your goals. When you are passionate about what you do, you will be willing to do more of it and you are willing to do it even if it is late at night. This is the key that is responsible for the success of all the extraordinary people out there says Shawn Lim, a great success article writer
Motivation is not a vaccination that you take it once and you are done for life. You need to motivate yourself daily. Motivation is like a perfume you should put on yourself every day. When you are inspired you will not mind the challenges life throws at you.
You will feel empowered to act on your dreams. I read personal development books for a minimum of one hour every day and it has helped me in living successfully without any stress.
Motivation is like a perfume you should put on yourself every day. If you always live like the worst will happen you will miss out on experiences and opportunities that will enrich your life. A ‘can do’ attitude can give you the motivation you need to do great things.
7. Do the things that you love
Many people want to be living successfully and be financially independent; unfortunately, most of them fail to achieve this goal. Why is this so? It is very simple, they thought that by working harder, they will earn more and hence, be richer.
However, this is not the way. Rich and successful people treat their work as play and because they love doing it. As a result, they tap into their full potential and they have the natural motivation that will keep them going in their life, which produces amazing results that they want.
Don’t do things that make you unhappy. This may seem very obvious, but you would be surprised how many people choose jobs, relationships, and things that make them unhappy. If you want happiness in your life then you have to choose to bring things into your life that will make you happy. If you hate your job, go out and find one that is a great fit for you and will make you happy doing it.
There are some people who are so bursting with energy and vitality that others feel compelled to listen to them and feel drawn to them. Passionate home cooks, budding interior designers, gourmet chocolate lovers, antique collectors—just try asking them a question about their interest and they will talk your ears off.
You want to be that person: someone who’s full of love for something significant. Have one meaningful hobby that encourages you to follow your passion, and you’ll begin each day looking forward to something special. If you continue to do what you love doing for a long time, you will start living successfully and happily.
8. Cultivate the relationships in your life,
If you have good relationships, your life will be more enjoyable and happier. It is easy, with the fast pace of modern life, to neglect the people in your life but if you can maintain a good relationship with the people around you, you will end up living successfully in your entire life.
After following the lives of 268 Harvard undergraduate males from the classes of 1938 to 1940 for decades, psychiatrist George Valliant concluded something you probably already know: Love is the key to happiness.
Even if a man succeeded in work, amassed piles of money, and experienced good health, without loving relationships he wouldn’t be happy, Valliant found. The longitudinal study showed happiness depends on two things: “One is love,” he wrote. “The other is finding a way of coping with life that does not push love away.”
How important is it to you that you spend time with your family? Are you making sure that your work doesn’t prevent you from doing just that?
What sort of arrangements have you made to make it happen? You don’t have to stop living your life for your family members, but you’ll feel far less guilt if you prioritize and make time for them.
Reconnect with long-lost friends or distant relatives. You will be amazed at how alive you feel once you do this. Use technology to your advantage and grow your social network by attending some social events near you.
Turn your online interactions into face-to-face ones, to experience the full dimensions of friendship (remember to be safe). All these things put together will help you maintain a successful living.
9. Explore life like there’s no end.
Explore life like there’s no end if you want to start living successfully. If you are constantly dwelling on the past or daydreaming about the future, you are missing out on the present moment. Remember that the past and the future are simply illusions and that real life takes place here and now.
Listen to new music, visit new places, eat at new restaurants, play new sports, meet new people etc. There is an endless list of things you can do to keep living successfully regardless of whether you’re wealthy or not. You see, money doesn’t stop you from exploring life.
Obviously, you can’t do the many things that Bill Gates or Richard Branson can do but there are easily hundreds of things you can do with what you have today. Do you know why we live? I don’t have the answer but I’m 100% sure it’s not to work and whine about what we don’t have.
You have a fantastic life whether you want to accept that truth or not. There are people with no home, begging for food and so on. Because you’re reading this, I dare to assume that you have a computer- which also means that you’re under a roof and are an educated person. You have eyes to read and a wonderful brain to think. For that, life is already great. The rest are bonuses.
Some might complain about being financially broke. You can be broke but you can never be poor because being broke is a temporary state that can be changed.
It might not be now but with sheer persistence and effort combined with using the right information and a willingness to take action, it’s just a matter of time before you look back satisfied and said, “I was once broke but now, I’m wealthy and living the life I’ve always wanted.” Does that sound good? Then, why not make it a reality because you can.
10. Have a positive mindset.
Another important nugget of living successfully is having a positive mindset. I’ve had my fair share of successes and failures this year. And when I sit back to think about it, they come in ‘sequences’.
Once I’ve gained success, I’ll have the momentum to get another one. When I failed and stay in that state, another failure will come again. I don’t know, some called it the Law of Attraction. To me, I strongly believe that you get what you want based on what your mind thinks because it ‘attracts’.
Paint a picture of yourself as succeeding, hold that picture ever before you, and it will materialize. You can recondition your mind. You can precondition it to sleep, or to insomnia. You can precondition it to success or to failure. In other words, that which you constantly think is going to happen tends to happen. At this very moment, you are what your thoughts have made you over a long period of time.
And it is possible to figure out, almost scientifically, what kind of person you will be in ten years from now by analyzing the kind of thoughts you are now holding in your mind. Are they negative, destructive thoughts? Are you reconditioning yourself to failure? Or are they positive, healthy thoughts? With positive thinking, you can actually change the conditions of your life and start living successfully.
Success is available to all of us if we follow the basic principles of positive thinking. You must never conclude, even though everything goes wrong, that you cannot succeed.
Even at the worst, there is a way out, a hidden secret that can turn failure into success and despair into happiness. No situation is so dark that there is not a ray of light. So if you face circumstances that you think are extremely difficult, if not utterly hopeless – don’t despair.
Try shifting to a more positive outlook on life. You will be surprised to see that whatever you wished for will start to manifest itself around you. “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” ― Henry Ford
11. Take Action
People end up not living successfully because they fail to take the necessary action needed to achieve their goals. Hard work will always beat talent. Maintain a daily schedule and then follow it religiously. Observe your actions and improve them every day. Fall in love with taking action and the rewards will take care of themselves.
Time is the fabric of which our lives are made of. It is a much more valuable resource than money. Time cannot be saved and it can only be invested in meaningful activities or wasted in useless pursuits. Never wait for the right time to begin the right thing; else you will always be waiting. Your tomorrow is designed by what you do today.
The majority of people who set their goals fail to achieve them. This is plain because they are not committed to their goals. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to achieve what you want? Stop blaming and stop giving excuses. You need to take action to make your dreams come true. Success may be simple, but it is not easy. If you are serious about what you want, play it full out and stay committed all the time and you will end up living successfully.
Success is more to goal setting and taking the necessary and solid action to achieve what you truly want in your life. Many people will tell you that they want to be rich and successful, but they are not doing what is necessary to make them rich.
Do not just say that you want to start a business, but end up watching television the whole night. Do something to make your dreams and your goals a reality.
Once you take one step toward your goal you should find it easier to take additional steps. These success steps will help you achieve the things that you deserve in your life. One of the biggest mistakes that you can make is NOT taking action steps.
Even if you are hesitant or fearful about doing something new or something different, just have faith and take the steps. When you take success steps it can make you feel like you are always a winner. Taking success steps means that you are not just a dreamer, but you are dedicated to bringing your dreams into reality and in no time you will start living successfully.
12. Avoid negative people
Surround yourself with supportive people if you want to be living successfully for the rest of your life. The 3 things that can change your life are friends, books & your thoughts. Choose them wisely.
A loser in the company of a loser does not feel like a loser. An immoral person in the company of an immoral person does not feel his immorality. This is the reason you should surround yourself with people who are better than you. Surround yourself with people who are achievers.
Minimize contact with negative people. This is not to say if someone is depressed or having a difficult time you should cut them out of your life. Negative people are those who are never happy for your successes, who don’t seem to want you to be happy or who constantly put you down, yet still call themselves a friend. This kind of individual will never allow you to start living successfully in life.
Remember what George Washington said: “Associate with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.” When you’re surrounded by people who are highly-driven, it’s encouraging.
You can bounce ideas off people, and they can even connect you with other people. Surrounding yourself with driven, successful people is a way to create a culture of success.
To be successful, you need positive energy on your side. Being around positive people enhances your life and increases your chances of reaching your ideal life.
13. Being thankful
If you have good health, a place to live, clean water and food then you are luckier than most. Stay positive and be thankful for whatever you have and plan to help others who are not blessed with these things that you have. Being thankful will guarantee you living successfully all through your life.
Count your blessings because no matter how much you achieve in life, you will always feel unhappy if you constantly focus on what you don’t have. Instead, devote time every day to appreciating the things you do have. Think beyond material items; appreciate your loved ones, and remember happy memories.
Try this exercise: whenever you are feeling low, make a list of all the things that make you happy, joyous, and grateful.
A beautiful family, adoring kids, kind friends, health, happy home, a job that pays the bills, surprise dinner prepared by a loving spouse, a blog, favorite books and keepsakes, unexpected twenty dollar bill in your jeans pocket. Everything counts in ensuring that one lives successfully in life.
After you’ve done this, consider what has happened to the feelings of doom and gloom: it is impossible not to be cheered up after remembering all the fantastic things you have in your life. Be grateful, and always make room for more happiness.
According to researchers Martin Seligman, Robert Emmons, and Michael McCullough, being grateful can result in feeling better about your life, more enthusiasts and more willingness to help others. Being grateful may even reduce coronary artery disease.
14. Look after your health.
Learn to love exercise and all physical activities. Achieving your long-term goals requires good health and energy. Incorporate regular activity into your success plan.
Improve your body by eliminating highly-processed foods and instead of eating foods that are natural, not preserved and full of chemicals. Start taking walks outdoors and give your body a regular workout.
Reduce stress, which is incredibly harmful to your body’s good health. Drink water and tea and all-natural fruit juices. Give up vices such as cigarette smoking and alcohol, which make you, feel good in the short-term but contribute to long-term harm. Let today be the day.
Exercising by taking a walk for 20-30 minutes a day and drinking at least one liter of water a day can be a substantial boost to the physical side of a successful life. Eating in moderation can also help.
Keep to a ratio of around 80% fruits and vegetables, and 20% of other food in your diet. A successful life does not mean that you need to cut out the little treats that you enjoy because people don’t usually feel very “successful” after that! Instead, limit your intake of treats such as chocolates and use them to reward yourself when you attain a goal.
Another way of empowering your physical and mental wellbeing is to have variety in your day, from the foods that you eat to the way that you go to work. For example, you could ride your bike to work one day.
This can help your body to look forward to every day and ultimately lead to a successful life. Routines are good but sometimes can become tedious and cause you to lose sight of your goals in life, which is certainly not something you want if you’re working towards living successfully.
15. Manage your finances.
Learning how to manage your money will help you live successfully and ensure your financial stability over time, regardless of your income. Keep track of your expenses. Review your bank statements often and notice where you spend your money. If you do your banking online, be sure to keep personal records as well. This will help you prevent over-spending and ensure that your bank statements are correct.
Understand your income. When calculating your income, be sure to take into account the federal, state, and social security taxes that will be deducted from your gross pay. The resulting number is your net pay, which is what you end up taking home with you.
Your first priority should be spending money on basic necessities like food, shelter, and clothing. Don’t spend money on luxuries like expensive clothes, cars, or vacations until you have first satisfied your basic necessities. Be honest with yourself and differentiate between your basic needs and your luxuries if you really want to keep living successfully.
Save money. Every month, you should deposit some of your money into a savings account. Consider asking your employer to directly deposit a portion of your income into your savings account.
The final requirement that will determine if you are going to live successfully is your ability to change. Look at your life right now and ask yourself this, if you keep on living the way you are living right now, will you be able to achieve the great success that you want in the future?
If the answer is a no, you will have to make changes right now. Doing the same thing will only give you the same results. So do something different if you are not producing or moving toward the life that you desire.
No matter how good or perfect you may seem, there is always room for improvement. To do that, get rid of all the bad and toxic habits along with the toxic gathering that surrounds you live a freer filled and successful life.
Real change isn’t easy–it takes effort and commitment, which is why many people avoid it. But the rewards you will reap are well worth the effort. Why languish in a mediocre life just because it is easier to follow the path of least resistance? Excel to greatness; find real purpose and real satisfaction in your life! Do not fear change, but embrace it.
Finally, we all want life to be easy and fulfilling. Success means different things to different people, but ultimately requires people to do things to achieve it rather than waiting for it to happen. It takes strength, determination, responsibility, motivation, and networking to achieve success.
I have come to believe that real success is to be successful with self. It’s not in having things, but in having mastery, having victory over self. Many wealthy individuals use different kinds of systems to achieve their success in life. Once an individual learns to do things in a certain way, then that individual will start living successfully without stress.
People who are living a successful life are not the “lucky ones” normally they are successful in life because of certain extra steps they took in life. Don’t stop too soon if an idea seems to be failing. Push farther and it may become successful. Sometimes it takes only a little extra effort.
Success isn’t normally achieved just by your own efforts. Other people have been there for you if you are able to help other people whilst you are progressing, you’ll discover more and move quicker and end up living successfully.
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